Day: May 11, 2020

We must accept finite disappointment but we must never lose infinite hope

MARTIN LUTHER KING

I get it. When reading blogs like mine, self-help books or a thousand positive quotes on Instagram. The minute life gets really tough is the minute all these positive things becomes the last thing you want to read.

Trust me I’ve been there!

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So why is it that when we are having a mental breakdown whether autism-related or not, do all our life lessons and self-development go out the window? WELL, It’s to do with something called perception vs reality (sorry for the lesson but bare with me! You will understand why in a second :)).

When our mindset is positive, we are working on a special interest or are in control of our situation, we see life through what I like to call the HAPPYLAND LENS! Leading you to walk with a spring in your step or feel at peace with the ‘me time’ you are having 😉

But then BOOM! Someone knocks on your door, you get a fright and there is now a big black pen mark right across your work. Or you are out in a public setting which you didn’t think would have this many people in, and now all you want to do is go home, work on your special interest, AND FOR EVERYONE TO GO AWAY!! (P.S Sorry mum for storming out of that family gathering, autism querk :))

As you can see, life doesn’t go to plan, and no matter how kind, generous and selfless you are, one thing can turn you into the exact thing you have tried so hard not to be!

So what can you do to fix this? Well… YOU REMEMBER THAT THIS IS YOUR PERCEPTION NOT YOUR REALITY. What I mean by this is that you are perceiving that everything is going wrong when in reality, your dad has just knocked on your door to tell you that your favourite dinner’s ready, and the public setting is just people gathered together to have fun!

Of course, I’m not saying this is easy! When you are on the verge of a mental breakdown, the last thing you would want to do is change your mindset!

So take a deep breath, tell yourself that it is ok to feel like this and that you are doing REALLY WELL! Remember that you will be home soon with your special interest, your favourite snack and a T.V show in no time!

NOW YOU ARE READY TO CHANGE YOUR NEGATIVE PERCEPTION TO REALITY!

So…quick recap! Remember what is happening, what the situation is and that a change of routine, although is REALLY DIFFICULT! It is something you will get through because you are AmAIZINGGG (Started singing the MAIZING so I can emphasize that to you all!).

AND THAT’S THAT

BUT DON’T FORGET! It’s ok to slip up and this technique does not work sometimes if it is an EXCEPTIONALLY BAD DAY.

So give yourself some grace, but also apologize to those who you may have said some things that you regretted, as a result of you having a bad day 🙂

Let me know if you used this technique during the week and how you found it! Would love to hear from you!

Sending all my love to you all,

Kisses,

Pheebs xx